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Clean up yuck duty!

My baby turned two this month and he is a gorgeous child (hey I am his mother), and all that comes with a two year old has now emerged. That does sound ominous. He is now insisting that he does everything on his own and has no problem saying the word “No”. So he gets food and drink everywhere and I mean absolutely everywhere.

He is climbing, well everything. And with that comes the inevitable falling over. I must admit he hardly ever cries, he just keeps getting up and soldiering on. He has a wonderful personality and is always on the move. He certainly knows how to tire people out.

Today he is unwell, a high fever set in yesterday and he has thrown up a few times since then. So apart from being ‘nurse mummy’ and giving lots of kisses and cuddles, I am also administering medicine, lots of water and on clean up yuck duty. πŸ™‚

I believe it is due to teething. His back molars are coming in and this can be quite painful at times. He may also have a slight cold. It is amazing how young children can be ill one moment and recover so quickly the next. This is my third child and so I am not panicking about the high temperature, unless it gets out of hand. He is handling things quite well and is still smiling.

He brings me no end of happiness and joy. I love the role of being a mother. However, I know that does not define me. It is only a part of who I am. An extremely important and loving part of me. It does tend to take over and I then have to put other areas of my life on hold. I do not regret this as children grow up so fast. I stayed home from work today to care for him. My family is my priority and keeping a job to take care of him is a priority also. So it is difficult at times to juggle all of it. My life is in a constant state of change, one moment of experience moves into another and I have to roll with it. So being flexible is a great tool to have. Patience is a virtue. So they say.

I want my children to know that they are loved and have a safe place to call home. I am grateful that I can provide that. I am so grateful that we are all healthy, even if we get ill and that we have food on the table and a roof over our heads. It is more than many people get to see.

Sending out love, light and healing to you all. Especially sending out loving thoughts to those in need right now.

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We are people too and we do not have super powers

For all of those single mothers out there, in fact for every parent out there…..This is a message for you. Remember to take the time that you need to take care of yourself. We are so used to putting everyone else first that we often forget about our needs. Don’t let it go. What is the point of getting run down and becoming ill, that leads to being unable to take of your family. I have had a big reminder of this lately and tonight I am sending out love, light and healing to all those people who need it right now. We are people too and we do not have super powers. Although sometimes we wish we did πŸ™‚

My heart is full

It is amazing what you can fit into one day. Albeit my only day off. But as a mother you don’t get any time off πŸ™‚ Dropped one child off to school, attended some appointments and then took my baby to swimming lessons. It is only his third one, but he is already so confident he wants to go off without me. It brings me so much joy to share this experience with him.Β  Then it was home for lunch and a nap – for the baby, not me! The little prince decided to remove his nappy and relieved himself all over his cot. Oh the joys of motherhood. Had to strip the bed and wash everything. Then two more appointments all with baby in tow. So many times that I had to pull the stroller out of the car and put it back in and the baby too. I am getting muscles on my muscles πŸ™‚ Then off home to put dinner on.Β  Followed by bath time. Playing with blocks and chatting with my little boy before I put him to bed. One of the highlights of the day has been watching my little one come out with new words – the latest one has been the word “mess” which he is very good at making. I have also been dealing with some issues regarding the baby’s father, but I won’t bore you with that. I am sitting here at the end of the day and going over my busy day. This is my ‘me’ time. I am focusing on my breathing and doing some meditation. My writing also brings me joy. I am doing my best to notice the little things, the moments that make up your life. My life is one long series of moments. The days go by very quickly. I want to savour those moments. I want to share that joy with my family. And to you also. We see so much despair in this world, I believe that these little moments of joy are worth holding onto. I want to send love, light and healing out to all those people who need it tonight. My heart is full. Blessings.

All you have to do is keep your eyes and heart open

I have lived through a couple of very difficult and stressful days. On the one hand I am very grateful for what I have in life. On the other hand I now realise how precarious it all is. All it takes is for one thing to go wrong and I could find myself out on the street with my children. A very sobering thought. I have worked very hard to build a life for my family. I have a mortgage and I work two jobs to pay for it. It was my choice to take on this responsibility as I wanted my children to have a stable home and not have to move from rental to rental (which we did for years). I went back to night school to upgrade my qualifications so that I could earn better money and I have had physical ailments to deal with. I understand that the universe only gives you what you can handle, but sometimes I do think – enough now please πŸ™‚ Any parent will tell you that you wouldn’t even think twice about taking all of this on for your family. It is what we do. Yes we all have bad days. But I choose to focus on the positive. Bad days pass, they always do. On a lighter note, my little one is starting to speak now. It really is precious to watch these memories. I feel very privileged to be his mother. I wouldn’t swap it for the world. Life is miraculous like that. You can swing from terrible to beautiful so easily, even all in one day. All you have to do is keep your eyes and heart open. Love and light to you all.

Today’s Reflection

If Melbourne’s weather is four seasons in one day, my day today has been a myriad of emotions in one day. My day went like this: wake at 6am to yell at my son for forgetting to put the bins out on bin day, then send him off to school, tend to my baby with his first bottle for the day, get him ready so that I can take my daughter to school as she is doing year 12 this year and starts her day early, we stop off for breakfast and I buy some swim pants for my little one who is starting swimming lessons today. I then go back home with my little one and give him breakfast and get him changed into his swimmers. I clean up after everyone and get changed and take my little to swimming lessons. I went into the water with him. He was very unsure but by the end of the class he was really enjoying himself. We get changed and go home to have lunch. I then put him down for his nap with a bottle. While he is asleep, I hop onto my computer and check out blog, website and facebook page and do some changes and updates. I pay some bills online. I put together a parenting plan and email it to my ex. That was an interesting exercise. I then go and pick up my daughter from school. When I get back I speak to my mother on the phone and then my baby wakes up from his nap. I give him a drink. I then take my daughter to the park so she can catch up with some friends and bubby plays on the playground. I then take him with me to go and pick up my eldest from the train station and go home again. I then bath my little one who reeks of chlorine πŸ™‚ I make him some pasta for dinner and it is a battle just to get him to sit still for that. Then it’s time to put dinner on for the whole family, a lovely chicken curry with rice. Everyone goes their separate ways and I spend some time with the baby playing and reading some books. He helped me to put a band aid on his boo boo….so cute. All thisΒ  before I put him to bed with a bottle. Finally it is time for me to have a long hot shower as I reek of chlorine too. πŸ™‚ That was glorious. Back to my computer to do some writing. Phew! And that is just on my day off. I work on the other days too. This is the life of a working single mother of three. I wouldn’t have it any other way. We are a very loving and close knit family and I work really hard to make it that way. Anything worth having is worth working hard for. Just reflecting on my day and I am really thankful to have this. Love and light to you all.

Coffee Stains – Latest dream inspired idea

Hello,

This idea is going to be my next project. Again I was jolted out of a deep sleep. When inspiration strikes πŸ™‚

A mother comes home to find her adult son has murdered his girlfriend. What does she do? Call the police or help to cover it up. Would her decision change if she found out her husband was having an affair with the deceased?

Wondering why I called it “Coffee Stains”? It is amazing how people will remember the trivial things in times of great stress – such as instant coffee spilled all over the kitchen bench. This becomes an important element later in the piece.

What deviousness is this??? I wonder. So far this is a short story, but there are many delicious twists and turns that make this story interesting.

Trish